Anger and Its Aftermath
Are you angry at this time? How did you get mad? My guess is something occurred to which you take exception. Someone or some thing – God, character, someone you know, a stranger – did something that made you mad. If you can set aside your anger for a moment and consider it instead of indulging it, you will start to understand it is not the result of what happened or who did it. It’s the result of what you inform yourself about what occurred.
You may tell yourself that the individual is awkward, stupid or trying to upset you. Your anger arises when you tell yourself that the individual shouldn’t have done something and you have a right to be mad about it. So far there’s an episode and what you tell yourself about it. If you tell yourself you’ve been wronged, you’re very likely to feel angry consequently.
Sometimes you’re wronged deliberately and you’ve got a great reason to be mad. Sometimes you encounter an inconvenience or worse that wasn’t meant to harm you. In cases like this, you are not as likely to feel anger. If you end up feeling angry, another question is what to do about it. You’ve got some choices.
You might attempt to discover if you’re harmed on purpose. If you decide you had been harmed on purpose, you have other options. These are trying to discount it to responding in anger and seeking revenge for what has been done to you.
How you respond also depends upon how you often think of others. You may see people as generally well intentioned and because of this do not make much fuss.
You have quite a selection of options of how to respond to anger. At the end, you can tell another person you didn’t enjoy what he or she did. In the other extreme, it is possible to pull a gun out and take the other person. There’s obviously a wide selection of consequences for you and for another person based on how you respond. Yet a lot of people don’t stop to consider how to respond to their anger or concerning the consequences of the way they react.
Some people do not find a fantastic way to manage their anger and rather pile 1 grudge upon another until the load becomes too much to bear. Then they burst in anger in a way a lot more severe the instant incident requires. You can prevent this by knowing your angry feelings and how they arose, analyzing your choices and choosing a suitable reaction.
• Try to comprehend your anger before acting on it.
• Write about your anger to describe how you are feeling and what you could do.
• Make sure someone is responsible rather than harming you accidentally.
• Discuss the topic with the other person rather than reacting impulsively.